Ki Seitzei 21:13 · unit 10

TT #23 · Parashas Ki Seitzei · First aliya · Passuk 21:13

The Complete Passuk

וְהֵסִ֩ירָה֩ אֶת־שִׂמְלַ֨ת שִׁבְיָ֜הּ מֵעָלֶ֗יהָ וְיָֽשְׁבָה֙ בְּבֵיתֶ֔ךָ וּבָ֥כְתָ֛ה אֶת־אָבִ֥יהָ וְאֶת־אִמָּ֖הּ יֶ֣רַח יָמִ֑ים וְאַ֨חַר כֵּ֜ן תָּב֤וֹא אֵלֶ֙יהָ֙ וּבְעַלְתָּ֔הּ וְהָיְתָ֥ה לְךָ֖ לְאִשָּֽׁה׃

And she shall remove the garment of her captivity from upon her, and she shall remain in your house and weep for her father and her mother a full month; and afterward you may come to her and possess her, and she shall be your wife.

Chabad.org — 21:13

Source Citation

Torah Temimah points to Sifrei Devarim.

Sefaria — Sifrei Devarim

Core Text of Chazal

Core Text
וְהָיְתָה לְךָ לְאִשָּׁה – כְּעִנְיָן שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר שְׁאֵרָהּ כְּסוּתָהּ וְעֹנָתָהּ לֹא יִגְרָע.

English: “And she shall be your wife” — in the same manner as it is said “her food, her clothing, and her conjugal rights he shall not diminish.”

On the daf / in context: Once the process is complete she is a full wife with all the ordinary marital obligations. She is not to be treated as a mere captive or slave.

Type of Learning

Derash equating her status to that of an ordinary wife (Sifrei).

What Is Learned

After the prescribed process the captive woman becomes a full wife entitled to the same rights of food, clothing, and conjugal relations as any other wife.