Parashas Vayeishev · Passuk 38:25
As she was being brought out, she sent this message to her father-in-law: “It’s by the man to whom these belong that I’m pregnant.” And she added, “Examine these: whose seal and cord and staff are these?”
Torah Temimah points to Sotah 10b.
English: “To the man to whom these belong” — and should she have said it to him explicitly? Rav Zutra bar Toviyah said in the name of Rav: this teaches that it is preferable to cast oneself into a fiery furnace rather than to shame one’s fellow in public.
Derash on the verse (Bavli sugya) — not a formal named middah of the 13. Silence and indirect speech become the model of protecting another’s dignity.
Even when her life was at stake, Tamar avoided naming Yehudah in public; that restraint is the source of the law against public shame.