Reeh 13:18 · unit 9

TT #182 · Parashas Reeh · Third Aliyah · Passuk 13:18

The Complete Passuk

וְלֹֽא־יִדְבַּ֧ק בְּיָדְךָ֛ מְא֖וּמָה מִן־הַחֵ֑רֶם לְמַ֩עַן֩ יָשׁ֨וּב יְהֹוָ֜ה מֵחֲר֣וֹן אַפּ֗וֹ וְנָֽתַן־לְךָ֤ רַחֲמִים֙ וְרִֽחַמְךָ֣ וְהִרְבֶּ֔ךָ כַּאֲשֶׁ֥ר נִשְׁבַּ֖ע לַאֲבֹתֶֽיךָ׃

And nothing of the devoted thing shall cling to your hand, in order that Hashem may turn from His burning anger and grant you compassion and be compassionate to you and multiply you as He swore to your fathers.

Chabad.org — 13:18

Source Citation

Torah Temimah points to Moed Katan.

Sefaria — Moed Katan

Core Text of Chazal

Core Text
וְנָתַן לְךָ רַחֲמִים וְרִחַמְךָ – רַבִּי אַבָּהוּ אֲזַל לֵיהּ חַד יַנּוּקָא, עָלוּ רַבִּי יוֹנָה וְרַבִּי יוֹסֵי לְנַחֲמוֹ, אָמַר לְהוּ: פְּתַח לְדַבֵּר.

English: “And He will grant you compassion and be compassionate to you” — Rabbi Abbahu lost a child; Rabbi Yonah and Rabbi Yosei went up to comfort him. He said to them, “Begin speaking.”

On the daf / in context: The practice that the mourner must open the conversation before the comforters speak is linked to the atmosphere of divine compassion that surrounds mourning.

Type of Learning

Narrative / derash (Moed Katan) — the mourner opens the words of comfort.

What Is Learned

Comforters may not begin speaking until the mourner himself opens the conversation.